Books and DVDs
Documentary DVD
One Gay, One Straight: Complicated Marriages (NEW LOW PRICE!)
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How would you feel if you discovered that your intimate partner is homosexual? Find out, as heterosexual wives and husbands tell their stories directly in this unique documentary. Written and produced by Carol Grever, author of two books on the subject and a straight spouse herself, the film opens the secret closet shared by mixed-orientation families. Intimate interviews dramatically demonstrate that healing is achievable and the experience can lead both gay and straight partners into a more authentic, satisfying future.
Narrated by Ali MacGraw Dauber Film Services Roslyn Dauber, Director, Carol Grever, Producer Running time: 28:31 minutes $15, includes tax, shipping, and handling
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Books
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Memory Quilt: A Family Narrative

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Memories are as ephemeral as fog on the mountain, yet they return again and again as the stories we tell ourselves. These become our private truths. In Memory Quilt, author Carol Grever recounts her grandparents’ precarious journey from the Great Depression through the 1940’s, weaving in family stories recalled by two remaining generations. Follow the Strouds through their crucible of poverty and wandering and discover their center of strength. In this revealing personal history, Grever has stitched together scraps of family lore into a warm memory quilt that cradles in its folds encouragement and truth that still apply, half a century later.

CreateSpace Publishing, 2009
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When Your Spouse Comes Out: A Straight Mate’s Recovery Manual
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True stories layer with expert psychological interpretations by Dr. Deborah Bowman, drawing practical guidance from glaring reality. This authoritative book blends riveting case studies, interpretation, questions to ponder and personal activities to suggest ways to thrive after crisis. An optional Guidebook for Workshop Facilitators, Mental Health Professionals, and Instructors offers suggestions for use in the classroom or with support groups.

The book is also enhanced by the documentary DVD, One Gay, One Straight: Complicated Marriages.
Available as Trade Paperback or Hardcover, 2008 The Haworth Press, Taylor & Francis Group, New York
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My Husband Is Gay: A Woman’s Guide to Surviving the Crisis
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This optimistic book details recognizable stages of the healing process, from initial shock to eventual resolution. Encouragement comes from personal stories of 26 straight spouses who successfully coped with their mates' coming-out. Useful information, empathy, and hope enliven this practical self-help guide, demonstrating various paths toward wholeness. Poignant true stories create an accessible roadmap to recovery.

Trade Paperback, 2001 Random House (The Crossing Press), New York
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Spanish Language Translation, Mi Esposo es GAY!
Thai Language Translation, My Husband Is Gay
Related Support Organizations
Straight Spouse Network (SSN) www.straightspouse.org
An international organization that provides personal, confidential support and information to heterosexual spouses/partners, current or former, of gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender mates and mixed-orientation couples to help resolve coming-out issues. SSN also offers research-based information about spouse, couple, and family issues.
Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG) www.pflag.org
PFLAG promotes the health and well-being of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender persons, their families and friends through support, education, and advocacy. PFLAG provides opportunity for dialogue about sexual orientation and gender identity, and acts to create a society that is healthy and respectful of human diversity.
Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere (COLAGE) www.colage.org
COLAGE is a unique national organization specifically supporting children, youth and adults with lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender parent(s). It offers a diverse array of support, education and advocacy.
Straight Partners Association (SPA) www.straightpartnersanonymous.co.uk
Straight Partners Anonymous (SPA) is a UK - based support group for straight people whose partner is gay, lesbian or bisexual. SPA offers a face-to-face support group as well as an online support group.